Seriously, I wasn't very happy about the idea of dear changing his car to a Type R. But I have no right to say anything cos I wasn't the one paying for the car. I remember even before we get this car, just in the mid of discussion on what car to get we already had quite a lot of disagreement.
In the mid of searching, I seriously hope that he wouldn't be able to find the car. Sadly, he manage to get it at Hua Yang, Yao Yang's uncle shop, not only that, he got the car at a very good price for the condition & stuff.
I don't know long this gonna last, I just hope that it gonna end soon. Since the very day he got his car till now, he really whack his car like nobody business, I admit I loved the speed, I enjoyed the thrilled, but I don't like the fact that the person I love most gonna ride on such a powerful machine everyday.
On the road, you can be super caution, but just any noob ass on the road, everyone life is at a risk. Dear told me this sentence, "When you have the power, don't let the power control you, instead you need to learn to control you power." but at this very moment, I still don't see he start controlling his power, that what worry me now.
Dear was a very short temper person on the road, every little thing can pissed him off. The fear in me now is exactly the same fear I had when we got the Fazer. The fear in me last till the very day we sell it away, than I can really put down the stone in me. I think the fear gonna be in me for the next 10years at least
Since the day he got his car till now, I don't know get scolded by him how many car bcos of the car, slam his boot cover too hard, forget to off the car light etc. Even no shelter carpark at my house area seem to be my fault too, just bcos his car is white, hard to maintain.
Every Saturday dear will come over to my house, I was a little disappointed, or should I say heart breaking when I hear that from him,
"My car just now don't know kena what at your house carpark there, I can't believe after I removed the thing on the car, so fast I saw a yellow patch. I really think next Saturday I shouldn't come over to your place, you come over to my place to stay instead la."
Seriously I don't expected that come out from his mouth, I was in a half sleep mode & suddenly I'm so awake by what he say & reply him,
"So, not coming over to my house bcos of your car?!? Bcos your car is white"
I think dear didn't expect such tone will from me so he hold back the question & say we will discuss about it some other time.
At this point, I can say I'm rather disappointed, speechless & sort of a chill run down my spine. From today onward, whatever is related to his car, I gonna wash my hand off it cos I feel there no room for any discussion at all. I can tell very clearly that your car in more important to how I feel, I feel real hurt.
Your words are too harsh for me to accept even it the fact, can you believe I was so hurt by what you say, I tears by your word in the public, tears roll down my cheek in the cinema.
A lot of misunderstanding & disagreement I believe can always be solve if both willing to discuss over the problem, open up to advices, listen to other point of view. Tone of voice is very important in a discussion too, you may not agree to what other say, but hold your cool & don't be so defensive, listen, digest before you disagree. Even if you disagree, disagree in a good tone of voice, tone of voice play an important role even in normal day to day conversation:
*有一对情侣，相约下班後去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了， 当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟， 他的男朋友很不高兴的说： 你每次都这样，现在我甚么心情也没了， 我以後再也不会等你了！ 刹那间，女孩终於决堤崩溃了， 她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了
*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境； 女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，他的男朋友说：我想你一定忙坏了吧！ 接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上， 此刻，女孩流泪了, 但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。
你体会到了吗？
*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！
I quote this paragraph from a email I received quite sometime ago, I think I did share before in my multiply blog before. For now, the feeling is eating me up again, getting a little, I would wish to share this email here again.
爱的感觉，总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜，
总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，
你终於不再孤单了，至少有一个人想著你、恋著你，
不论做什么事情，
只要能一起，就是好的，
但是慢慢的，随著彼此的认识愈深，
你开始发现了对方的缺点，
於是问题一个接著一个发生，
你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，
有人说爱情就像在捡石头，
总想捡到一个适合自己的，
但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？
*她适合你，那你又适合她吗?
其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，
或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，
但是记住人是有弹性的，
很多事情是可以改变的，
只要你有心、有勇气，
与其到处去捡未知的石头，
还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮磨，你开始磨了吗？
很多人以为是因为感情淡了，
所以人才会变得懒惰。
错！
其实是人先被惰性征服，
所以感情才会变淡的。
*在某个聚餐的场合, 有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好， 这时候有个中年男人忽然说「十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！ 现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳咧！
*听到了吗？明白了吗？
难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。
因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。
如果每个人都
懒得讲话、
懒得倾听、
懒得制造惊喜、
懒得温柔体贴，
那么夫妻或是情人之间，
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？
所以请记住：
有活力的爱情，
是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，
谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！
*有一对情侣，相约下班後去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了， 当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟， 他的男朋友很不高兴的说： 你每次都这样，现在我甚么心情也没了， 我以後再也不会等你了！ 刹那间，女孩终於决堤崩溃了， 她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了
*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境； 女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，他的男朋友说：我想你一定忙坏了吧！ 接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上， 此刻，女孩流泪了, 但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。
你体会到了吗？
*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！
爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时， 很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了！
懂了吗？
当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错。
那并不代表你会选择他。
*我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。
但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，
你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。
*没错，我们总是以为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。
可是後来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。
假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？
其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，
但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发 觉而已呢？
所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！
他或许已经等你很久喽！
*当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。
所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分用来爱自己。
如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来， 完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
*所以请记住，
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
爱一个人不要超过八分
*那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？
我笑著跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！
*如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
要道歉，也要道谢；
要认错，也要改错；
要体贴，也要体谅；
是接受，而不是忍受；
是宽容，而不是纵容；
是支持，而不是支配；
是慰问，而不是质问；
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
是为对方默默祈求，
而不是向对方诸多要求；
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
