Love Cycle

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.  

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.  It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. 

You will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage..

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"

Dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out, that's why we have the "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. 

You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work? Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. 

“WILL” make your marriage stronger.  It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... You can "make" love. 

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision". Not just a feeling.

“No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE, No one stays in love by chance, and it is by choice.”